Kenneth W Daniels
  • Home
  • The Deconversion Desert

Reflections on money during a Caribbean cruise

5/6/2012

 
Picture
We finally took the plunge and splurged for our first ever cruise, it being our 20th anniversary and all. It was the longest time Charlene and I have been together alone since the birth of our firstborn over 17 years ago. We enjoyed immensely our seven days away from the real world, from work, from making beds, cleaning house, ferrying kids, surfing the Internet--just to spend time with each other doing whatever we wanted on the ship, in Jamaica, in the Cayman Islands, and in Cozumel (the site of the photo to the left). 

That said, I found myself pausing to reflect (I can't help myself) on how fortunate we and everyone else in that boat are compared to the poor around the world who could never dream of having all the food you could possibly eat 24/7 and throwing half of it away. I wondered what a starving Nigerien (note: a Nigerien is from Niger, while a Nigerian is from Nigeria) would think of such luxury and such waste, seeing all the abandoned plates of food scattered throughout the cavernous dining rooms. I'm not sure how many others on the ship let themselves be troubled by such thoughts; perhaps I'm uniquely cursed to be weighed down by them, having spent nearly a third of my in Africa and having developed a somewhat radical view of wealth as a Christian after digesting Jesus' teachings in the Gospel of Luke. John the Baptist angrily denounced a crowd, not for the things you hear harped on in most churches today (like sex, for example), but for owning too much and not sharing what they owned: “Anyone who has two shirts should share with the one who has none, and anyone who has food should do the same” (Luke 3:11)! If that's the case, then if I own two or more pairs of shoes (as I do) while there are others out there who have none, then I (according to John the Baptist) am subject to being "cut down and thrown into the fire" (Luke 3:9). Or as Jesus warned, "any of you who does not give up everything he has cannot be my disciple" (Luke 14:33), or, "But woe to you who are rich, for you have already received your comfort. Woe to you who are well fed now, for you will go hungry" (Luke 6:24).

Though I'm no longer a believer and do not regard the Bible as authoritative for our lives (many Christians apparently don't either, judging from their wholesale rejection or explaining away of Jesus' teachings on wealth), and I don't think the radical redistribution of wealth called for in 2 Corinthians 8:3-15 is practical, I still carry a bit of an egalitarian streak from my believing days (or is it just a soft spot in my nature?). After all, if I'm better off financially than a desert-dwelling Nigerien, do I deserve all the credit for what I possess? Did I choose the specific family and culture into which I was born, with all its material and intellectual advantages; did I choose the particular combination of DNA and training I was bequeathed by my parents, allowing for sufficient intelligence to succeed in school and enough determination to find and keep gainful employment in a nation that offers the kind of employment I enjoy? Was I more deserving than an uneducated African child of an excellent gradeschool education, which then allowed me to go on to college and study computer science and later pursue a career in software development? No, no, no, and no! Does a Somali infant deserve to die at her mother's dry breast? Does an inner-city Los Angeles gang member deserve to have grown up without a role model or an education, surrounded by crime, with hardly a choice but to be pressed into a gang? No and no. It's the recognition that "there but for dumb luck go I" that preserves my egalitarian streak, my soft spot for those less fortunate than I am, and a twinge of guilt when I spend more on a one-week cruise than what many in the world spend in a year or three. Especially after listening to humanist ethicist Peter Singer pontificate on just how bad world poverty is and just how many children die per day (26,000) while so many of us live in relative luxury. 

I know, I know, there are so many difficult questions that could be raised about our moral responsibility in alleviating human poverty--most importantly, how much is enough before we can say we've done our part? Can I legitimately enjoy a Starbucks latte now and then, even if it costs enough to feed a child for a couple of weeks? Is this something we as individuals should be responsible for (something we as a nation haven't frankly done well at, no matter how generous we think we are), or should we all be taxed so the UN can take care of the starving children in Africa as this comment in response to Singer's interview advocates? What about all those corrupt governments that intercept the aid money and buy arms instead? Aren't we just throwing money down the toilet?

Despite all these questions, I have to believe we as individuals and as relatively wealthy nations and as coalitions of nations could do more to make the world a better place. It's to the advantage of us all for the inequalities to be reduced; why, after all, do you think we in the United States and in many other developed countries have such a problem with illegal immigration? I'm not in the least advocating communism or any sort of forced income caps--these approaches have been tried and have failed. But accepting the status quo, just because the alternatives are full of problems and difficulties, doesn't mean that turning a blind eye to the 26,000 children who starve each day is any less problematic or difficult.

As an alternative to waiting for a perfect solution, I would like to recommend to my readers who can afford it to consider giving a little or a lot to the following nonreligious charitable organizations: PATH, Doctors Without Borders, UNICEF, and Foundation Beyond Belief.  And if you're religious, consider World Vision or Hagar International. In the long run, though, I'm with the commentator who responded to Singer's interview: it's going to take banding together in coalitions of nations, taxing us modestly (it really wouldn't be that big of sacrifice if everyone participated), and putting together a concerted plan to end starvation around the world. We just aren't doing our job as individuals, nor do I expect we ever will, given our mistaken propensity to think we somehow deserve all that we earn thanks to our own efforts and free will (efforts and free will that we think anyone else in the world could exercise to gain what we have, if only they would just do it!).
Julia
5/6/2012 11:17:53 pm

This gave recently gave me pause. (Although I am quite sure its author is not giving up despite some disillusionment)
http://shotgunshackblog.com/2012/04/25/the-aid-bitchslap/

And on another semi-tangent -- I find myself upset to hear people speak of how a particular person who held some certain trait in life will certainly enjoy related experiences to a special degree in "heaven" now that he has died. Most recently it was said of a man who spent his life in blissfully close work immersed in nature and I found myself immediately thinking, "Wouldn't it make more "sense" that someone deprived of that opportunity in mortal life would "deserve" that afterward?"

Well, interesting thoughts you share as usual and very glad you had a wonderful time (even though it something I would never desire to do and which for me would be "hell!" :-)

Erica A.
5/6/2012 11:53:46 pm

Your cruise sounds fun! My husband and I also just took our first vacation alone since kids (but our oldest is only 8), a week in the mountains. It was probably as close to heaven as I'll ever get.

Back to your post--every day I remember how lucky I am--and how the stupid little things that stress me out are so trivial in comparison to worrying about if your children will get enough food to stay alive.

I've been doing a lot of thinking, especially since reading your book and Aayan Hirsi Ali's books (Infidel and Nomad) about how to live as an atheist/humanist, how to make the world a better place. Her books inspired me to start tutoring refugees in English, because the Dutch people who helped her made her feel so welcome as a refugee from Somolia to Holland. I just started tutoring, and I love it. I will certainly get more out of it than I am giving. Another reason to feel guilty!

My husband and I make a small donation each month to Doctors Without Borders, but it does seem like such a tiny, tiny dent in what needs to be done in the world, and in comparison to all that we have.

On another note, are you aware of the conflict between Peter Singer and the disability rights community?

http://www.nytimes.com/2003/02/16/magazine/16DISABLED.html?pagewanted=all

Ryan
5/6/2012 11:56:20 pm

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Before I lost my faith, I rarely gave charity a second thought. As was so often reinforced at church, the teachings of the New Testament really meant that you should tithe. I always figured I was safe letting the Church handle it from there. Looking back, this was frankly selfish willful ignorance. I was mostly just paying my Dad's salary with my tithe anyway. He might think that was an act of charity, but I don't. I now question whether churches should be given the same tax exemptions as charities. While churches certainly do some charitable work, their main objective (and what they spend most of their money on) is growing themselves. This is not what charities do. It's what businesses do. General Electric may plant some trees from time to time, but no one would call them a charity. The primary reason a lot of wealthy people donate money, is for the tax exemptions. If they can donate to a group that's goal is to spread their world view, all the better. Maybe if religious organizations weren't exempt, those people would give to a real charity to get the same tax deductions. The fact that people have to be goaded into charity by tax breaks is a deeper issue, I think, but it's more just a sad fact than a treatable issue. Personally, I recently decided to start giving to Doctors Without Borders, and am much happier because of it.

Julia
5/7/2012 09:16:48 pm

Well, this isn't as desperate a need as food for the starving, but speaking of money:
I have been hoping that someone would set up a fund for people in the situation you were in, facing the traumas of leaving faith when this is at the same time their livelihood.
Since the media has been covering the situation of Teresa McBain the past couple of weeks, a humanist group in Florida has begun such a fund. Teresa is their first recipient, but they do have at least one other already they are hoping to be able to help if the effort can continue.
Meanwhile, currently they are trying to raise one year of Teresa's salary, and it appears to me a worthy effort.
http://exclergy.chipin.com/hfa-ex-clergy-fund

Julia
5/7/2012 09:17:11 pm

Julia
5/8/2012 01:19:58 am

The first time I looked at the Clergy Project site was before the Teresa MacBain story hit. I just looked again and found that they have now added to their site a way for ordinary folk to donate, and evidently (with the help of Teresa MacBain, in fact) they are working out specifics of ways they can support religious leaders leaving the faith by means of things such as funding, job training, etc. They are collecting donations through a connection with the Freedom From Religion Foundation. http://clergyproject.org/

Erica A. link
5/8/2012 11:36:51 pm

I hadn't heard of MacBain. I've been so interested in the topics on this blog, that I decided to start an religion/politics blog of my own, and wrote about her. I should have a link to my blog now to it when I comment.

Julia
5/9/2012 06:43:14 am

Hi Erica,
Read your blog entry and wanted to let you know that in a much longer interview with MacBain yesterday on NPR, she explained that she had communicated with some church leaders and had no idea that they had not shared it with the rest of the congregation when she went off to the convention at which she made her first public speech about it. I think there is probably a lot of misunderstanding about the whole thing, and where the truth lies exactly may not be able to be fully known by outsiders, but I'm sorry that it happened that way because it is distracting from the main issue, unfortunately. :-(

Julia
5/9/2012 06:48:54 am

Hi again, Erica,I answered to quickly, before I'd finished your whole post. In response to the latter half -- Some people are so pained by this experience, especially if it happened for them in adulthood, that the support of others like them is vitally important. Although I haven't been physically involved yet with such a group, I understand that need very well and without some kind of human understanding, empathy, and companionship in this journey I do not think I would be living. How I wish I had come to my current understandings as a teen or even young adult. That would have been a far different experience. But then, everyone's experience is unique.

Julia
5/9/2012 06:49:21 am

too*

Ken Daniels link
5/10/2012 03:18:39 am

Hi everyone, thanks for all your comments. Erica, glad you were inspired to start a blog--what's it called? Julia, thanks for highlighting the blight of paid Christian workers struggling to leave their faith and their job, having no place to go. I can second the Clergy Project as an exciting new resource for those in that situation.

I've thought about poverty some more after posting my latest blog entry and reading the Haitian aid story Julia linked to. It's certainly a far more complex topic than what a single blog post can address. And for the record, though I can dream of having a modest "tax" on developing nations to combat starvation around the world, I don't think it will ever happen. Unfortunately, efforts to keep more people alive will eventually backfire when the population increases beyond the capacity of the land to sustain all those who escape starvation thanks to our aid. That is, unless we couple birth control and family planning with our aid. But then those who oppose birth control for religious reasons will object to being forcibly taxed to support an endeavor they believe to be immoral, and we're back to where we started--people just giving a little here and there toward the plight of the hungry whenever the spirit leads, with no comprehensive plan for actually solving the problem.

Erica A. link
5/10/2012 03:57:06 am

Hi, Ken. It's called <a href="http://www.casualatheist.blogspot.com/">The Casual Atheist</a>. I've got other blogs going related to my hobbies, but needed a place to stick religion and politics.

The people who oppose birth control are very loud, but they are such a tiny minority as to be completely insignicant in reality. I think it very odd, actually, that they've managed to get such publicity for themselves in recent months.


Comments are closed.

    Author

    Kenneth W. Daniels (1968-), son of evangelical missionaries, is the author of Why I Believed: Reflections of a Former Missionary. He grew up in Africa and returned as an adult to serve with Wycliffe Bible Translators in Niger on the edge of the Sahara Desert. While studying the Bible on the mission field, he came to doubt the message he had traveled across the world to bring to a nomadic camel-herding ethnic group. Though he lost his faith and as a result left Africa in 2000, he remains part of a conservative Christian family. He currently resides with his wife and three children in suburban Dallas, TX, where he works as a software developer.

    Archives

    July 2012
    June 2012
    May 2012
    April 2012
    March 2012
    February 2012
    January 2012
    December 2011
    November 2011

    Categories

    All
    Abortion
    Atheism
    Blues
    Book Review
    Book Review Response
    Capital Punishment
    Charity
    Children
    Christian Music
    Christmas
    Coming Out
    Coming Out To Spouse
    Consciousness
    Contraception
    Depression
    Evil
    Evolution
    Free Will
    Friends
    Gay Marriage
    Global Warming
    Happiness
    Hell
    Homosexuality
    Humanism
    Loyalty
    Lying
    Meaning
    Miracles
    Mixed Marriage
    Morality
    Murder
    Nostalgia
    Planet Purity Without Belief
    Religion And Society
    Religious Liberty
    Sam Harris
    Separation Of Church And State
    Sexism
    Silver Lining
    Social Justice
    Social Networks
    Steven Pinker
    Ten Commandments
    Thanksgiving
    Truth
    Unbelief
    Veganism
    Vegetarianism
    Violence
    Women

    RSS Feed

Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.